Comments on: Lovers and Guitars http://mytimeasahuman.com/lovers-and-guitars/30 writings by Kai Mantsch Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:39:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cat http://mytimeasahuman.com/lovers-and-guitars/30/comment-page-1#comment-26 Cat Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:04:56 +0000 http://mytimeasahuman.com/?p=30#comment-26 I have been enjoying reading this blog, and have at times wanted to respond, only to be dragged away by some other commitment. But, I can't help but respond to this one, because you have expressed the reason I stopped dating musicians :). I was drawn to them irresistibly in college because of the passion they expressed, but I soon discovered that the very thing I was attracted to, was the thing that would keep them forever separate from me: that passion for music. While I totally agree that finding a way to be whole and satisfied while independent is fundamental even when you are in a loving relationship. But. I think ideally (and maybe I still live in fairy tales) it doesn't have to be a battle between human love and creative or athletic passion. Ideally, I hope to find a loving relationship that helps to support my other interests. That I gain inspiration from my lover's outside pursuits, and vice versa. But I do think that creating a lasting bond with someone is worth some sacrifice and compromise. I didn't think that for a long time (hence why I am still single), but well, that is why I won't date musicians now ;). I have been enjoying reading this blog, and have at times wanted to respond, only to be dragged away by some other commitment. But, I can’t help but respond to this one, because you have expressed the reason I stopped dating musicians :) . I was drawn to them irresistibly in college because of the passion they expressed, but I soon discovered that the very thing I was attracted to, was the thing that would keep them forever separate from me: that passion for music.

While I totally agree that finding a way to be whole and satisfied while independent is fundamental even when you are in a loving relationship. But. I think ideally (and maybe I still live in fairy tales) it doesn’t have to be a battle between human love and creative or athletic passion. Ideally, I hope to find a loving relationship that helps to support my other interests. That I gain inspiration from my lover’s outside pursuits, and vice versa. But I do think that creating a lasting bond with someone is worth some sacrifice and compromise. I didn’t think that for a long time (hence why I am still single), but well, that is why I won’t date musicians now ;) .

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